What do you do if your Teenager has Friends You don’t Like?

March 12, 2009 | Comments Off on What do you do if your Teenager has Friends You don’t Like?

What to do when your Teenagers have Friends You Don’t Like?

Life with a teenager can be very interesting. One day, you understand
each other perfectly and the next, it is like you are living on two
different planets. One subject that parents and teenagers have trouble
agreeing on is their friends.

Parents have to tread lightly when it comes to likes and dislikes
concerning your teens. Most teens go through various phases between the
ages of twelve and eighteen. Hanging around with friends that you don’t
approve of could be one of those phases.

Determine why you don’t approve of their friends. If the reason for
disapproval surrounds their appearance or mannerisms, you may have to
put up with it. If your teenager is having a hard time figuring out who
they are, the chances are that someone else’s teenager is having the
same trouble. Asking your son or daughter to drop a friend because of
their looks sends the wrong message.

If one of their friends is disrespectful in your house, handle this
situation directly with the offending teenager. This is your house and
you lay the ground rules. Kindly tell the friend that he must change
his tone and word usage in your home. If he agrees, then the problem is

Teens often do things that they have been taught. Propping feet up on
the coffee table or drinking from the juice carton may be okay at their
home. Talk to your teenager’s friends with respect and tell them that
you don’t allow certain things to be done in your home. The reason they
didn’t do it before was because he or she just didn’t know.

If you suspect that one of your teenagers new friends is into drugs or
something else that is not above board, action may be warranted.
Keeping an open line of communication with your teenager should alert
you to any changes in their behavior that may have prompted their new
relationship with this friend. Ask your teenager if their new friend is
into any risky behaviors. Before your child can object to the question,
reiterate that you are concerned about them. You can suggest that they
may want to distance themselves if this new friend is doing something
that could get them in trouble. If your teenager insists that nothing
is going on, trust them. You have raised them to be aware of drugs,
alcohol, smoking, and sex. They have all of the tools that they need.
The rest is up to them.

Teenagers will have all types of friends. It is okay to be concerned if
a friend doesn’t click with you. Take the time to understand the
reasons why you don’t approve of the friend before jumping to
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